Even a grown up person can be destroyed by the very strong emotion of jealousy. To very young children it can be a very disturbing emotion since they don’t understand what has happened. A parents does best to help a child convert their feelings of jealousy into constructive feelings since jealousy is a fact of life. The are several ways that a child will show jealousy and in a house where the older child has reigned supreme for several years before experiencing another child at home will often cause various kinds of psychological disturbances. Anything can happen from a child’s point of view if these things happen without warning, their house might disappear of one day their parents may be gone. In such a disorderly world the child often feels it is best to remain the baby than grow up and will often regress into the earlier stages of childhood.

Stepping backwards is the literal meaning of regression. The child becomes so fretful that they won’t let the mother out of their sight for even a moment and starts wetting themselves. The child’s unconscious reasoning plainly tells them that being a baby means they get constant attention and they will be a baby, this is a way of resenting the present of another baby in the house. In every way they will imitate a baby and may even go to the extent of refusing solid food and demanding milk from a bottle, talking or using baby language, throwing tantrums and refusing to go to sleep unless someone is with them, all these and more ways cause the parents a great deal of anxiety.

The solution to this problem is best solved by compensating for what the child feels the sibling has taken away and giving them a new identification that restores their real age and help them to grow progressively, you should scold, punish, coax or bribe the child. During the day, the mother should compensate by devoting some time fully to the child and either play with her, read to her or get involved in a hobby they can do together. Make them feel important that they are the big child at home by pointing out that the activity is only suitable for older children. Giving the child something to do in connection with the baby is sometimes a useful tactic and the child can help the mother look after the baby.

Feeding, bathing and clothing the baby are some of the ways you can have the child assist. If the child is older you can give them greater responsibilities such as protecting the baby from dangers or comforting them when they are miserable. This way the child will feel wanted and not feel like they are being left out, eventually they will act like a third parent to the child. In the child’s presence you should tactfully downplay the baby and don’t get too excited or gloat over it. Take care of the baby when the older one is not around as far as it is convenient. Remind the child that there are a lot of disadvantages to being a baby and make them feel proud of their maturity. Some little things you can do to help a small child feel better include going to be later than the baby, receiving more grown up treats and different toys that show a superiority in a few years. A child will forget their jealousy with all these cherished tokens of status and they will eventually adopt a loving attitude towards the younger child.

Jealousy between Older Children

Some older brothers and sisters are bound to have some jealousy between them, especially if the parents lack affection for one child over another. If all children receive the same type of affection no matter what they are like handsome or plain, handicapped or normal, dull or smart then there will be very warm affection between them rather than jealousy.

Parents should treat all children equally to prevent jealousy between them and this includes refrains from making comparisons, showing favors and showering praises. When two children quarrel with one another it is a good idea to refrain from taking sides. The children are encourage to quarrel again to win the parents favor and to see the other one get scolded when the parents attempt to decide what is right and wrong. Tell the children to stop in a firm voice if you must break up a quarrel and do listen to their arguments, rather occupy their minds and distract their attention with something new.

Child-Parent Jealousy

Usually on account of the mother a son is jealous of their father and on account of the father the daughter is jealous of the mother. Although the opposite can also be true if a boy wants to be loved by his father as much as the mother and the girl is jealous of the father because she wants the mother all to herself. Often times both children will feel irritated when the parents are seen enjoying each other’s company. Children will often want to sleep with their parents at night to keep them separate and a violent storm of tears or rage will take place if they are told they cannot share the bedroom. At all odd hours of the night this jealousy will wake up the child and they will demand water, to be taken to the toilet or not allow the parents to leave their side because they claim to be afraid of the dark. By explaining to a child gently that parents belong to each other and a parent cannot exclusively belong to the child the parents will be able to put a stop to this jealousy. The parent should be more affectionate towards the child who is jealous of them and try to win them over by taking them out, giving small gifts and playing with them. In the bringing up of children these steps are important since serious discord and acute misery can result to a child who suffers from jealousy.

Vivid imaginations are common in little children and they often imagine things that don’t happen in real life. A child may not really be lying but rather using their imagination if they tell a harmless tale occasionally about something that didn’t take place or for a broken toy. There is only a vague idea of what the truth is for three and four year olds, they will need correction now and then but they shouldn’t be admonished since this leads to a further distortion of the facts. The difference between truth and lies is quite aware in the mild of a child by age five. When in the company of friends a child will realize that they cannot get away with making up stories and will gradually learn through observations at home and elsewhere that they will get more respect and have life better if they tell the truth.

If a child doesn’t know the facts or they are eager to get your undivided attention then they may unintentionally tell a lie. No punishment is warranted for this behavior. Rather you should just tell your child “what you say is just make believe, my child.” The child will realize that you cannot be easily deceived. Children going to school often measure themselves against the accomplishments and strength of their classmates and friends, as a result they may spill over into lying by bragging. A boy may declare that he outclassed everyone on the school ground when they get home if they are poor at sports and a girl may state that in geometry and English she beat everybody in class. A parents should try to bolster their ego if a child tells these types of lies. Minimize their weaknesses and point out their qualities where they are adequate or excelling to try and build up their self confidence. Make sure they realize that everyone has a special talent for something and that not everyone excels at everything. Some children are good at sports, studies, writing and dancing while others are good at other things.

If a child tells the truth about breaking the neighbors window then the parent may get angry and in the future the child will, out of fear of the parents, stop speaking the truth in order to avoid their anger. Therefore, it is wise for a parent to give a child praise for telling the truth about the broken window even if the parents are not pleased by the fact. Don’t confront you child by asking “did you do that?” since they may be too afraid to say anything other than no. Rather tell them that you know what they did and that you know they are sorry and you trust them not to do it again. This way the child will behave better the next time since you didn’t admonish them.

To find out the cause before handing out the punishment a grown up child may tell a deliberate lie. Because of fear of reprisal or because they are in a situation that they can’t cope with the child will speak a lie. Understand the cause of the child’s lying and get to the root of the trouble before making the child see gently why trust is better than lies. This way since you child know you understand and trust them then they will try not to lie in the future because you are always by here. If you punish your child without knowing the cause of the lying then the child will just be encouraged to become more skillful in lying so they aren’t caught the next time.

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